KNOW
YOUR COMPANY'S POLICY
Although dating a coworker is not illegal,
some companies have policies against
it; others turn a blind eye. Some companies
don't want to intrude on employees'
lives, while others are very conscious
about the fact that it could lead to
sexual harassment claims. Companies
are worried about liability if a romance
goes bad and therefore have a policy
regarding interoffice romance.
Know your company's
policy written and unwritten policies
(Will one employee have to leave a
department/team or the company?) and
discuss, as a couple, the potential
impact of your relationship on career.
HOW
WILL IT AFFECT YOUR WORK?
Often new relationships are a big
distraction, more so if your sweetheart
is in the office. Minimize the effect
by agreeing to talk only certain times
during the day, like lunch. You need
to very consciously keep your personal
life separate.
Be aware of your
motivations too, since boredom or
dissatisfaction may be your impetus
for office romance. If someone is
bored or unsatisfied at work, having
a romance can deflect dealing with
other issues.
The ups and downs
in your relationship could also affect
your productivity at work.
CAUTION!
There is one corporate rule that is
wise to follow: If the person you
date is your supervisor/team leader/manager
or a subordinate, it's best to simply
steer clear. It's difficult to report
to someone or effectively manage someone
you're in love with. Besides this,
there could be complaints of favouritism
once others get to know. If you do
become involved with your boss, ask
to have your reporting relationship
changed.
Another situation
to be wary about: if either partner
is married to someone else, this complicates
the situation tremendously.
BE
DISCREET
When you are in a relationship with
a co-worker the golden rule to follow
is to behave discreetly in the workplace.
Don't tell too many
people at work about your relationship,
and don't discuss your plans publicly.
When Asha started dating her present
fiancé, she managed to keep
loose talk to the minimum by not being
seen with him around her workplace.
"We used to meet at shop down
the street and go out from there,"
she said. "For many months we
barely nodded at each other at work."
Sometimes it's hard
biting your tongue, Gautam says, when
work and love collide. "If people
said bad things about her I couldn't
say, 'Shut up, that's my girlfriend.'
I couldn't defend her the way I would
have liked."
Completely avoid
all physical contact or any public
display of affection in the office.
Don't send flowers or gifts to the
workplace and do not write romantic
e-mails using your official ID. Remember
also that telephone conversations
can be overheard!
BE
PROFESSIONAL
If your position or responsibilities
require you to work together, attend
the same meetings, so on, behave professionally
at all times. You are encouraged to
be yourself, maintain and speak your
continuing opinions, exhibit the same
skills, and conduct yourself in the
same manner as you did prior to the
relationship.
These rules also apply even to social
functions at work. At an office party
or business social function, for instance
don't dance too closely or hold hands,
and be careful how you address each
other.
MEET
EACH OTHER OUTSIDE THE WORKPLACE
It is important to meet each other
in different contexts as well. At
work you only see one aspect of the
person and the context of family background,
community, religion and upbringing
may seem less important. However all
these factors also come into play
in a long-term relationship.
IF THE RELATIONSHIP
BREAKS UP…………
You probably don't want to think about
this, but there is always the chance
that the relationship could fail.
If this happens, be professional and
adult about it. Even if you've been
jilted and the relationship ends badly
you cannot vent your negative feelings
in the office. Neither should you
attempt to pursue or persuade the
other person. This is the risk of
office relationships. They sometimes
don't work out and then you have to
continue to see or work with the person
everyday.
Love
and romance at the workplace are on
the increase - and these could result
in happy long-term relationships.
Just make sure that you proceed with
caution!
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